Related Stories
I Was Wounded; My Honor Wasnt
Key Excerpts from Article on Website of New York Times
Posted: January 15th, 2013
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/08/opinion/after-being-raped-...
When I fought to live that night, I hardly knew what I was fighting for. A male friend and I had gone for a walk up a mountain near my home. Four armed men caught us and made us climb to a secluded spot, where they raped me for several hours, and beat both of us. At 17, I was just a child. Life rewarded me richly for surviving. I stumbled home, wounded and traumatized, to a fabulous family. With them on my side, so much came my way. I found true love. I wrote books. I had a shining child. Too many others will never experience that. They will not see that it gets better, that the day comes when one incident is no longer the central focus of your life. One day you find you are no longer looking behind you, expecting every group of men to attack. One day you are not frightened anymore. Rape is horrible. But it is not horrible for all the reasons that have been drilled into the heads of Indian women. It is not horrible because you lose your virtue. It is not horrible because your father and your brother are dishonored. I reject the notion that my virtue is located in my vagina, just as I reject the notion that mens brains are in their genitals. If we take honor out of the equation, rape will still be horrible, but it will be a personal, and not a societal, horror. We will be able to give women who have been assaulted what they truly need: not a load of rubbish about how they should feel guilty or ashamed, but empathy for going through a terrible trauma.
Note: The author, Sohaila Abdulali, wrote the novel Year of the Tiger. For deeply revealing reports from reliable major media sources on sexual abuse of women, click here.
Related Stories
Latest News
Key News Articles from Years Past
